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I have friends who lost their daughter the day she was born.

I have a great-aunt who turns 100 next month.

We arrive in this life not knowing the length or shape of our future … but sometimes we find out.

My lifespan is going to fall squarely in the middle. I was recently diagnosed with stage IV pancreatic cancer. It has metastasized to my liver.

I’ve tried to write this blog post in my head several times, and it never sounds right. So please … forgive the blunt words. I was going to attempt eloquence, but I can’t find any.

I’ve been lucky for twenty years. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 27, and I didn’t expect to make it to 32. But I did, and once I passed that five-year mark … I started to think I was going to live. At age 34, I had my beautiful son. Two years ago, my dream of being a published author came true. And during these twenty years, my beloved has been by my side. We rode the marriage roller coaster together, sometimes laughing and sometimes screaming.

So lucky.

I’m not angry about the diagnosis. How can I feel angry when I had this gift of time? I’m not even afraid of dying. We all die, and I made my peace with that a long time ago.

I’m just sad. Why does my husband have to go through this again?

And devastated. I would step in front of my son to take a bullet for him. But now I feel like the one pulling the trigger.

I had lots of travel plans and writing plans. More trips to Europe … more visits to sunny beaches … more books to write. I get at least one email a day asking me why I ended The Mermaid’s Mirror the way I did. A sequel is first on my list of projects.

But overnight, illness has become my full-time job. I have a “PICC” line inserted in my vein which is used to deliver IV nutrition directly into my body. I’ve had challenges eating, and this way I’m getting nutrition while I try to eat and drink regular food. But it requires a lot of careful, sterile work – overnight, my husband has become a caretaker. There are visiting nurses, and calls from pharmacy techs and dietitians, and prescriptions to manage, and general overwhelmed-ness.

On the love side, if the sheer number of prayers, good wishes, love, hope, flowers, meals, gifts, and letters could create a miraculous recovery, I would be healed. I haven’t even been able to thank everyone properly yet.

On the medical side, I joined a study for an experimental drug (although I ended up in the control group, which gets standard treatment). I had my first chemo treatment yesterday. Feeling okay so far.

I knew this would be a tough road, but I didn’t expect some of the obstacles … I can barely walk anymore. Some weird, rare side effect of the illness has caused swelling and painful lesions on my feet and lower legs. We’re trying to get it under control with pain meds, but it’s a process. Just like The Little Mermaid, each step I take is like walking on knives. I had to arrive for my first treatment yesterday in a wheelchair.

My fingers are getting sore and swollen, too. Typing this entry has been not just a mental challenge, but a physical one. So please forgive me if I don’t respond to comments.


That’s it for now, friends.




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Jan. 12th, 2011 09:06 pm (UTC)
Seem utterly inadequate. Especially in the face of the grace of the way you shared the news.
From what little I know of you, this grace and humor will serve you well.
Please, if there is anything I can do from New York, aside from send the love and prayers and healing vibes, let me know.
Love and strength.
Wendy Shang
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:07 pm (UTC)
I had the pleasure of meeting you at ALA, and of course, through your work. Sending you and your family caring thoughts.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:08 pm (UTC)
Your honesty and grace in the midst of this is inspiring. My heart goes out to you and your family, as do my prayers. People here love you, and I can see why.

Jan. 12th, 2011 09:09 pm (UTC)
LOVE YOU SO MUCH! You & your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:11 pm (UTC)
There aren't any words that can do anything but express my sincere wishes of healing and joy and hope and peace to you. Words seem vastly inadequate now. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:13 pm (UTC)
My aunt found her peace through accepting that, whatever happened, it was all part of God's plan. A friend observed that "even things that kill you make you stronger."

Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. My life is richer because of people like you.

I found your blog today through a friend on Twitter. Your books are now on my TBR list.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:15 pm (UTC)
Praying for you, Lisa--I'm so sorry to read this.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:15 pm (UTC)
Hugs, love, prayers & awe.

All for you.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:16 pm (UTC)
Lisa, I have no words. Just prayers for you and yours.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:18 pm (UTC)
I'll pray for the best and good days ahead...and no icky chemo feelings!
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:22 pm (UTC)
Lisa, you have always shown me such kindness and compassion. You're funny and caring and I just can't believe how cruel life is.
Look, if you want some European goodies, anything at all, if there's anything I can do for you and your family - let me know. Please.
Love and hugs and prayers.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:25 pm (UTC)
Much, much love, Lisa. And light. And sincere admiration.
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:26 pm (UTC)
You are so courageous! I will be praying for you, and your family!
Ash Mackinnon
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:33 pm (UTC)
Pancreatic cancer
I was blown away by this story.
We went thru similar
My wife died but was making progress after Cyberknife treatment.
patrick Swayze also had this treatment.
I am now writing a book about our journey, incl Elvis and Patrick Swayze and will use funds from sales to purchase Australias 1st Cyberknife as we dont have it here and Leah had to go to USA to access it.
I have you in my thoughts as the support and prayers we received were so welcomed.
Best of luck
Jan. 12th, 2011 09:39 pm (UTC)
I am praying for you.
And for your family. For miraculous healing, for peace, for daily mercies.

--Karen Akins
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